Universally you hear of individuals searching for happiness. Countless times each of us has heard the statement, “I just want to be happy”. When asked what happiness means however, quite often only quizzical stares are returned. Most people know that they want happiness, yet never really ask themselves what that really means. I believe that what we are really looking for is meaning and when we start to find it, an unintended side effect of joy starts to simmer and over time grows to a full boil - a joy that nothing outside of us can take away. As stated by Vikor E. Frankl, “life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose.”
If I hear from someone, they want a certain type of car or a specific type of house or once they get that promotion, THEN they will be happy, I know they are on the wrong road to lasting happiness. This is what I call conditional happiness based on false meaning and is why they have not found the happiness they are looking for; TRUE MEANING IS THE PATH TO HAPPINESS.
"Why am I not content with all that is for me today" is the question that needs to be answered. When the question of happiness is examined in this manner, most people find that what they are looking for “out there in the universe” is what they need to establish within themselves. As an example, that promotion will "prove to the world that I am worthy", that "I am intelligent", that "I demand respect"; however, that promotion will never bring about those gifts until those gifts are provided to the self first. It will only be false meaning with limited happiness. Happiness is not a destination, it is a result.
So what are the questions that we should be asking in order to achieve TRUE MEANING in our lives? Let me start by asking what this Viktor E. Frank quote means to you: “those who have a why to live, can bear with almost any how”?
So what is your answer to this? Why are you living? What is your purpose? Because if you are living, you have a purpose and a purpose that is beyond yourself.